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ACCEPTANCE OF A PROBLEM AND WILLINGNESS TO ADDRESS IT IS OFTEN THE FIRST
AND BIGGEST STEP ONE CAN TAKE TOWARDS ENRICHING THEIR LIFE.

Couples Issues

  • My fiancé/e and I need some guidance to prepare ourselves for marriage.
  • My partner and I constantly fight and struggle to find peace and happiness in our marriage.
  • My partner gets physically violent with me.
  • My partner is very dominating and manipulative, and that makes me feel humiliated and degraded.
  • My partner forces me to have sex even when I don’t want to.
  • My partner and I do not have an emotional connection.
  • My partner is clingy and wants more attention than I can give.
  • My partner and I constantly have misunderstandings.
  • During arguments with my partner, I try to stay as calm as I can, but finally I burst out resulting in damage that I regret later.
  • My in-laws constantly interfere in our life which is affecting our marriage.
  • I suspect that my partner is constantly lying to me.
My fiancé/e and I need some guidance to prepare ourselves for marriage.

Marriage may be a universal custom but being prepared for the responsibilities and struggles in marriage does not come naturally to anyone, especially during this turning point of your life. One needs to learn about what to expect in marriage, how to strengthen bond with partner, and how to help each other grow.
Marriage is essentially about knowing more about yourself in this relationship and tolerate your partner’s flaws and shortcomings.
If you wish to prepare yourself with an in-depth guidance for marriage, feel free to attend one of our workshops on Pre-Marital Counseling that we conduct regularly at Medisex Foundation.

My partner and I constantly fight and struggle to find peace and happiness in our marriage.

Conflicts and differences are natural and also necessary for growth in any marriage. But sometimes fights can get out of control, or you may be stuck in a negative cycle with no solution, leaving you feeling frustrated and helpless.

My partner gets physically violent with me.

Resolving conflicts and differences may not be without arguments. However, using physical violence to dominate over the partner fails the very purpose. To know better ways to handle conflicts without resorting to violence, talk to us.

My partner is very dominating and manipulative, and that makes me feel humiliated and degraded.

While physical violence is a clear form of abuse, sometimes people may use subtler forms of emotional abuse by creating fear, humiliating and degrading a person into subjugating to their wishes.

My partner forces me to have sex even when I don’t want to.

MDifferences in desire for sex are common in many marriages. However, if your partner’s unhealthy ways of demanding for sex are causing a rift in your marriage.

My partner and I do not have an emotional connection.

In a conventional marriage, two people can get along in many ways and even be married for years while still remaining emotionally distant. Unfortunately, this ambience is not sufficient for a deep emotional connection. It needs special efforts in a purposeful way to experience and nurture a sense of connection.

My partner is clingy and wants more attention than I can give.

While giving each other attention and working towards closeness is important in a marriage, it is also essential to nurture one’s individual space and growth. Finding the right balance between personal space and togetherness can take some effort.

My partner and I constantly have misunderstandings.

While trying to communicate with a partner, we must first be aware and clear about our needs; be able to express it in a clear yet unaggressive manner; and be able to assess how the partner is perceiving what we say. A gap anywhere in this process can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts.

During arguments with my partner, I try to stay as calm as I can, but finally I burst out resulting in damage that I regret later.

During an argument, you need to handle your partner’s opinion logically as well as pay attention to your physiological changes that occur due to your ‘fight or flight’ instinct. Managing these two simultaneously is a real tight rope walk. To know how to balance between your body and mind, talk to us.

My in-laws constantly interfere in our life which is affecting our marriage.

In-laws are a part of your spouse, and therefore they enter your relationship by default. If you accept your spouse you need to accept your in-laws too. But sometimes it is extremely difficult, especially when you sense that your partner is not supporting you. Creating a balanced relationship between you and your partner and then changing ‘my worries’ to ‘our worries’ is the need of need of hour.

I suspect that my partner is constantly lying to me.

While there are several reasons why people lie, the root cause is that people are afraid of being wrongly judged, shown disapproval, put into shame, or rejected if they speak the truth. Therefore, to help the partner speak truth you need to learn how to listen to your partner with tolerance and compassion,a and most importantly, with an attitude of non-reactivity. It is generally very difficult to be so.


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Medisex Foundation, (formerly known as Foundation of Sexual Medicine) is set up to help people have a healthy sense of sexuality; improve emotional and sexual intimacy in marriage; and have healthy and proactive family relationships.

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